How to get Back on Your Feet After Divorce

August 10th, 2013 at 12:30 pm

LaraAfter going through divorce, many people find themselves in a very serious state of depression.  Divorce can drastically change your entire life, and it can be difficult, but not impossible, to get back on your feet.  There are a few simple steps you can take to make the process more bearable.

  1. An important first step is to look into counseling and therapy.  It is often true that self-esteem can take a serious toll before and during the process of your divorce.  Therapy can help you understand why your relationship didn’t work out so that you can begin to move forward in a positive way.
  2. It is important that you develop your own, new social life.   This will help get your mind off of things as well as set the tone for your new life.   Accept invitations to coffee and dinner, but don’t feel the need to rush.  Take your time, and new friends will come.
  3. Your home will most likely feel very strange after a divorce.  It is full of memories, both good and bad.  It is very common for those who go through a divorce to crave a fresh start.  If your finances allow it, consider moving into a new home or apartment.  If not, try redecorating your home and giving it a new feel, one that matches your new independent lifestyle.  This may include getting rid of some of your old things that have sentimental value.
  4. Redecorating or moving into a new home includes creating your new, personal bedroom.  Sleeping alone can feel strange at first, but it probably won’t take long for you to begin to enjoy not having to share your space.  Turn your new bedroom into your own personal haven; do things the way you have always wanted to.

These are only a few ways to start to get back on your feet after a divorce.  If you or somebody you know is struggling to develop a new life for yourself, don’t be afraid to seek the assistance of a dedicated Illinois family law attorney.

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