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mental healthThere are many reasons which cause people to make the decision to file for divorce. Sadly, one of those reasons is when the other spouse suffers from mental illness. Studies have shown that people who suffer from mental illness have a higher rate of divorce. One study that was conducted in 2011 actually put that divorce rate increase at between 20 to 80 percent.

The multi-national study was conducted by the National Center for Biotechnology Information. The researchers found 18 different mental disorders which not only had an effect on whether or not a person dealing with one or more of those disorders stayed married, but also affected whether or not they married in the first place.

The mental disorders which had the largest impact on divorce rates were alcohol abuse, major depression, and specific phobia, such as post-traumatic stress syndrome (PTSD).

divorce rateEmory University of Atlanta has long held esteem as one of the nation’s premier liberal arts institutions, as well as a global leader in cutting-edge research. One of the most recent research studies released by Emory encapsulates the conception and probability of divorce among American couples. The study, titled "A Diamond is Forever and Other Fairy Tales: The Relationship Between Wedding Expenses and Marriage Duration," concluded that the combined exorbitant expenses of an engagement ring and wedding preparation may determine the duration of the all-American marriage.

Of the 3,000 adults polled, it was discovered that men who set a limit between $2,000 to $4,000 for an engagement ring were 1.3 times more likely to consult with an experienced divorce attorney at some point in the marriage. Those who opted for a $500 to $2,000 price point remained in the marriage. Those who had a lower budget for engagement rings ranging from $0 to up to $500 also faced a higher instance of divorce.

Emory researchers then surveyed the female participants regarding the cost of the wedding itself. Statistically, women spending more than $20,000 on their once in a lifetime event were found to divorce at a rate 3.5 times higher than those who set the limit between $5,000 to $10,000. This may not be welcoming news for any bride to be since the average cost of today’s wedding is at least $30,000.

As the significant divorce rate remains a thorn in the side of all American couples, the Emory research team concluded their study does little to support the validity of the wedding industry’s extravagant price tag as a precursor to a couple’s "happily ever after."

If you are considering consulting with an experienced Lombard divorce attorney, the legal team A. Traub & Associates understands the importance of reaching a fair resolution at a cost-effective rate. To discuss your situation with one of our experienced attorneys, call 630-426-0196 today.

social media, twitter, facebook, family law, divorce, Illinois divorce lawyer, Illinois divorce attorneyTwitter and other social media services have completely changed the way people interact in their relationships. However, this does not always mean good things when it comes to romantic partnerships. Unfortunately, use of these services may also be behind a number of couples filing for divorce.

A recent study from Russell Clayton, a doctoral candidate at the University of Missouri has found that people who use Twitter actively are more likely to experience conflict with their romantic partners. The study also determined that Twitter-related conflict was more likely to lead to negative outcomes in the relationship, including infidelity and divorce. Over the course of the study, Clayton surveyed a total of 581 Twitter users about their activity on the social media site, including how often they accessed the site, posted tweets, sent direct messages, replied to followers, and scrolled through their newsfeed. He also questioned study participants about how often conflict arose in their relationship due to their Twitter usage. He found that the more active a respondent was on the social media website, the more likely they were to experience Twitter-related conflict with their partner. Unlike the results of Clayton's previous study, which examined the effect of Facebook-related conflict on relationships and found only newer relationships were affected, this study found that increased conflict and negative relationship outcomes affected new relationships regardless of how long the couple had been involved with each other. The study has been published in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking. Social media is an excellent tool for communication and building friendships. Unfortunately, it can also have a negative effect as well. If you are considering filing for divorce as the result of online infidelity, it is important that you have an experienced attorney on your side. Contact a qualified Illinois divorce attorney today for a consultation on your case.

cohabitation, cohabitation agreement, lawyer, attorney, divorce, divorce rate, cause of divorceIn the past, cohabitation before marriage has often been linked to couples filing for divorce. New information, however has shown that this is incorrect. In fact, in certain cases, living together before getting married may actually improve the chances of a marriage succeeding.

New research conducted by Dr. Arielle Kuperberg, Assistant Professor of Sociology at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro has shown that for women who have personal circumstances that may, in many cases, indicate a higher risk for divorce, cohabitation can actually improve their chances at a successful marriage. This includes:
  • Women who have had a premarital birth;
  • Women who have had more than the average number of sexual partners;
  • Women raised in single parent families;
  • Women raised in stepparent families.
Dr. Kuperberg’s research found that previous studies linking cohabitation and divorce consistently overstated the risk, ignoring other issues that may have also increased the risk of an unsuccessful marriage. For example, poorer couples have a tendency to cohabitate, and a lower economic status often leads to divorce. These studies also compared couples by the ages at which they married, instead of their ages when they moved in together. When Dr. Kuperberg compared these couples at the age when they moved in together, she found no difference in the divorce rate. Instead, couples who married or cohabitated at ages younger than 23 were the ones at a higher risk for divorce. Of course, the cause of a divorce is rarely simple. In most cases, the reasons behind a divorce cannot be traced to a single factor. If you are considering filing for divorce in Illinois, your first step should be to obtain the services of a qualified attorney. The professionals at A. Traub & Associates have years of experience, and will do their best to ensure that your divorce moves as smoothly through the system as possible. Contact us today for your initial consultation, and let us help you get started on your way to a new life.

American divorce rateBy sampling our social group or shaking the family tree, we can easily make the assumption that divorce is as common as marriage. Seems we can not always have one without the other.

 As published by, a quarterly online journal of topical essays highlighting domestic policy and societal issues, only 20 percent of couples married throughout the 1950s filed for divorce. A sharp contrast to the divorce rate of 50 percent for all couples jumping the broom between 1960 up through the end of the 1980s. Did they know something that we may have lost in translation? Did Mr. and Mrs. "C" find the true secret of Happy Days? Perhaps a journey back to our future can shed some light as to why divorce may not be as strong as an institution today as it once was. Plain and simple. It was a different era for both men and women. Divorce found no comfort in the family home. Men succumbed to peer pressure. A stand up guy included a Missus and a growing family. Everyone expected it of him, his boss, his neighbors and his family. By an early age he had it all. For his bride, her trip down the aisle also began quite early, quickly accepting the role as the matriarch of the all American post war family. The housing market was also booming. Home ownership of a two parent home was on every young married couple's agenda. Families communicated daily at the dinner table and with only one television in the home, often spent the early evening hours watching Ozzie and Harriet. All was well with their world. Perhaps not entirely true. Couples experienced the same summer of discontent as married couples do today. So why the low divorce rate? Once again, peer pressure was influential. You stayed married till death do you part. Divorce carried a social stigma and unless you were married to Dr. Jekyll Mr. Hyde, you stayed for better or worse. End of story, end of an era. If you find yourself conflicted about filing for divorce and disappointing your Baby Boomer parents, take a moment and remember it is your marriage, your divorce, your time. We are not your parent's attorneys. At A. Traub & Associates we are a different type of law firm. We apply a human approach to each case but will work diligently to reach a resolution to your divorce concerns swiftly and professionally. If you reside in DuPage, Cook, Kane or Will Counties, contact us at 630-426-0196 and let us help bring your future into today's prospective.

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Infidelity doesn’t only pertain to an act of physical cheating. Emotional affairs have long been a major factor in divorce rates across the country, in which one or both partners embark on an intimate relationship with a person of the opposite sex outside of the marriage, but in which no actual physical infidelity occurs. According to, 41 percent of people in American marriages admit to having either a physical or emotional affair. Considering that statistics citing physical infidelity are much lower, one can conclude that emotional or non-physical affairs are a component of thousands of American marriages.

According to US News and World Report, however, there’s another type of infidelity: financial infidelity. One of the most important foundations in a marriage, according to US News and World Report, is trust. A significant amount of trust needs to come from both sides in a marriage, especially when it comes to shared finances. Marriages are built around shared goals, and usually married couples have jointly made budgetary decisions. "When you discover that your partner has been making financial moves that undermine that hard work and those goals," reports the US News and World Report, "it can be an incredibly bitter pill to swallow."Financial Infidelity Can Lead To Divorce

Financial infidelity can refer to a number of offenses: that one partner is making financial moves of which the other is unaware; that one partner is far outspending the other on personal items such as clothing or recreation; that one partner is not keeping up his or her end of the budgeting bargain, such as a failure to pay bills on time.


Cook County courthouses are shunning the American tradition of keeping family law cases open and public, according to the Chicago Tribune. There have been several cases as of late to pass through Illinois public courts that have been sealed or kept closed from the public, according to the Tribune, "despite a rich tradition of openness in the U.S. court system." Closed courts, or cases in which initials are used instead of full names, are most often utilized by the rich and famous to keep their identities private and avoid media coverage. One such case like this is that of former state lawmaker and county commissioner John Fritchey, who is noted on divorce records simply as J.F. His former wife, Karen Banks Fritchey, "who comes from an influential political family," was listed on the documents as K.F.

According to the Tribune, "legal experts said cases should remain open and identities should be shielded only in exceptional instances. Entire case files should not be hidden because individuals want privacy or because they might be embarrassed." This is especially true in a society in which divorce is growing more acceptable. According to a 2008 Gallup Values and Beliefs survey, the percentage of Americans who reported that divorce is morally acceptable was up to 70 percent, "up from 59 percent in 2001, and breaking the previous high of 67 percent in 2006." In fact, tolerance for divorce was comparable to acceptance of "gambling, the death penalty, embryonic stem-cell research, and premarital sex."

And yet according to Psychology Today, "in our modern American culture, divorce is still seen as a negative life event—even taboo." This is mostly brought on by the people closest to those going through a divorce; "the attitudes and actions of friends, family, and acquaintances in reaction to hearing of the split can leave "dissolutioners" feeling isolated, marginalized, and rejected." Perhaps this is why people in the public spotlight, regardless of whether it’s right nor not, are opting for closed court cases when going through a divorce.


While one long-held stereotype in America about divorce is a scenario in which the middle-aged husband leaves his wife for a much younger woman, statistics show otherwise. According to a AARP The Magazine survey launched a couple of years ago, "66 percent of women claimed to have initiated their split." The survey was conducted, according to the Anchorage Daily News, over more than a thousand divorced men and women, ages 40 to 79.

The age of the participants in the survey could definitely have something do with it. Attitudes and expectations of marriage and gender roles have continued to change in America, especially in the decades since their marriages. Marriage counselor Willard Harley told the Anchorage Daily News that husbands "often feel that the expectations of women in general, and their wives in particular, have grown completely out of reach."

While the stereotype that men were seeking a split may not be true, the age-old stereotype that women are more perceptive and attune to small emotional shifts may hold water. The specific finding that women are more likely to initiate divorce comes ion the heels of a larger AARP finding that "women seemed more in tune with the danger signs of a problem marriage." Men were far more likely to be caught off-guard by an ending marriage.


According to Medill, a publication of Northwestern University in Chicago, "states that allow same-sex marriage have some of the lowest [divorce] rates in the country." As the idea of legal LGBT marriage comes to Illinois, many opponents fear that it will ruin the idea of a nuclear family, traditionally consisting of a mother, father, and children. Yet Carolina Staerk, a representative from Equity Illinois, has stated that the state has recently become open to the idea of a marriage equality act. 

According to the Medill, the divorce rate is lowest in states that allow same-sex marriage. "Same-sex couples took their vows for the first time May 17, 2004, as Massachusetts became the first state to legalize same-sex marriage." In 2004, the divorce rate in that state was 2.2 for every 1,000 people. By 2010 that had risen to 2.5 per 1,000 people; still the second lowest divorce rate in the country by state. The state with the lowest divorce rate in 2010? Iowa—another state that allows same-sex marriage.

Chicagoan Scott Fehlan, a lawyer who married his husband in California in 2008, guesses that it’s because gay couples who get married wait longer and are more mature when they tie the know that divorce rates among same-sex marriages are lower than the heterosexual rates. "They are less likely to get a divorce because they have been together for so long, and the opportunity has only recently been granted for them to get married," he told Medill.

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