Initiating Divorce: Who Makes the Call?

 Posted on April 10, 2014 in Divorce

Divorce is a common peril for almost 50 percent of all American couples. When we hear about a recent "conscious uncoupling" we assume the wife is responsible for placing the call to an experienced divorce attorney. Our assumption would have been correct.

According to the Centers for Disease Control, National Center for Health Statistics, 65 percent of all divorce proceedings are initiated by the wife. In states such as Illinois, when introducing no-fault divorce, rates jumped as high as 70 percent. If we learned anything from John Gray's, Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus, we are quite aware that there are fundamental differences between women and men. Women tend to view things at a more emotional level and perhaps the following, offered by Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. can categorize the feelings behind a woman's decision to dissolve her marriage: "I hurt all the time because I feel alone and abandoned."

"My husband is no longer my friend."

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The Perils of Adoption: Advice for Prospective Parents

 Posted on April 07, 2014 in Children

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Same Channel Different Time: Quick Tips for Remarrying Your Ex

 Posted on March 31, 2014 in Divorce

This command performance may not guarantee you a gold star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, but if considering marrying your former spouse, you would be sharing center stage with the likes of Liz Taylor; Marie Osmond; NeNe Leakes, Pink and even Judge Judy, just to name a few.

Will it be a marriage of infinite syndication? Probably not. Psychology Today reports that over 60 percent of all repeat marriages are prone to cancellation. Evidence shows that repeat marriages fail quicker than the premiere episode. Lois Tarter, author of The Divorce Ritual and contributor to the Huffington Post, believes there are a few steps to be taken when contemplating Act II with your former spouse.

• Time – take it. Make sure all emotional wounds have healed. Confront and resolve any outstanding issues before the anticipated wedding date;

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The University of Pittsburgh Weighs in on Challenges of Divorce

 Posted on March 27, 2014 in Divorce

You are thinking of meeting with a divorce attorney and wonder what impact your decision will have on your children. You understand the tension and uneasiness blanketing the house may soon dissipate and you and the kids can settle into a more harmonic routine. You worry a bit about how the kids will handle the absence of their other parent, but take some comfort in their resiliently. You are not expecting any changes in their behavior as all things fall into place.

Researchers, Daniel S. Shaw and Erin M. Ingoldsby of the University of Pittsburgh disagree. These colleagues have researched the conceptualizations of the impact of divorce on children and how they tend to adjust to the overall situation. By highlighting sections of their Children of Divorce you may gain a better understanding of the behaviors on the horizon as your children adjust to the new family dynamics. Externalization Problems

This is the most consistent finding when it comes to how a child may process the situation and brings to the surface personal difficulties with delinquency, aggression and disobedience.

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New Research Shows Living Together Doesn’t Lead to Divorce

 Posted on March 25, 2014 in Uncategorized

In the past, cohabitation before marriage has often been linked to couples filing for divorce. New information, however has shown that this is incorrect. In fact, in certain cases, living together before getting married may actually improve the chances of a marriage succeeding.

New research conducted by Dr. Arielle Kuperberg, Assistant Professor of Sociology at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro has shown that for women who have personal circumstances that may, in many cases, indicate a higher risk for divorce, cohabitation can actually improve their chances at a successful marriage. This includes:

• Women who have had a premarital birth;
• Women who have had more than the average number of sexual partners;
• Women raised in single parent families;

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Sibling Visitation Rights in Illinois

 Posted on March 21, 2014 in Divorce

Experiencing a divorce can be difficult for all family members, but particularly children. In Illinois, the state gives the same visitation rights to siblings as is usually granted to grandparents in the event of a divorce. This is particularly helpful in cases where parents split custody of multiple children, or in cases where a second marriage with stepchildren is ending.

 According to Illinois state law, siblings of a minor child at least a year old may petition the court for visitation in cases where there has been an unreasonable denial of visitation. The state considers a sibling to be a brother, sister, stepbrother or stepsister. These petitions may be filed both during and after the divorce proceedings, and can request both visitation and reasonable electronic communication rights. As with grandparent visitation, one of the following conditions must be met in addition to the sibling being denied visitation by a parent:

• The child’s other parent must have been deceased or missing for at least three months;

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Will Divorce Isolate Your Children?

 Posted on March 19, 2014 in Divorce

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Disability, Divorce and a Dependable Illinois Divorce Attorney

 Posted on March 14, 2014 in Distribution of Assets

Deciding to file for a divorce takes insurmountable courage, especially if you are living with a disability. According to a recent U.S. Census Brief, one fifth of all Americans are facing daily challenges due to a disability. The numbers are only expected to increase over the coming decades.

One case scenario could highlight a woman with a diagnosed disability who has been married for 25 years with no children involved. Her spouse's substance abuse issues have become intolerable and after considerable counseling there is no hope left for saving the marriage. There is nothing left to do but to contact an experienced divorce attorney and move forward. For many disabled Americans facing divorce, additional circumstances may need to be taken into consideration. For those residing in Illinois, the Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act (750 ILCS 5) will provide for the following three areas of possible continual support: Temporary

Maintenance payment agreed upon by both parties to cover short-term expenses.

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Top Ten Countries Achieving Medal Status in Divorce

 Posted on March 12, 2014 in Divorce

According to Variety, the American entertainment trade magazine founded in 1905, NBC hit a ratings gold mine by enticing 25.9 million viewers to tune into the winter games of the XXII Olympiad.

 Over five time zones and 18 spectacular evenings we explored the foothills and mountain tops of Sochi, Russia. We cheered on athletes, applauded victories and witnessed the agony of defeat as 88 nations came together to celebrate the uniqueness of each nation. One may choose to believe that with so much cultural diversity, the participating nations held nothing in common except the hunt for gold. As athletes stepped on the podium, it may be interesting to note that both the host nation, Russia and the United States vied for standings on a totally different event. The Top Ten Nations with the highest divorce rates. Russia achieved the gold medal standard for the highest divorce rate while the U.S.claimed bronze, with the remaining top ten taking their respective place on the podium:

1. Russia

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Longer Deployments May Lead to Divorce

 Posted on March 05, 2014 in Divorce

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