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Don't Let Divorce Damage Your Health
Life has its twists and turns, which unfortunately, for many Illinois couples, may include divorce. Some people may not realize the damage that a divorce can cause to one's health. Getting the outcome that you desire is important, but equally as important is your physical and mental well-being. The Telegraph stresses the importance of taking care of yourself throughout the divorce process and afterwards.
Because the process can be overwhelming, it is easy to focus on everything other than good health when you are going through a divorce. However, the lasting effects of a divorce may make you reconsider. Most people are aware that divorce could lead to short-term depression and anxiety. Nevertheless, going through a divorce can also be linked to higher risks of breast cancer and heart disease.
To combat the risk of poor health during a divorce, eat regularly. The loss of appetite is often reported, but this should be avoided to maintain good health. Find a healthy way, rather than a destructive way, to manage stress levels. Avoid smoking and overuse of alcohol, as these vices may seem to offer relief, but will work against good health. Exercise and meditation are constructive ways to relieve stress. Staying connected with close friends and family is important. Express your emotions to people who will not judge you and those who have your best interests in mind. Now is not the time to avoid friends. Getting the help and the support that you need is critical to your health.
Getting through a divorce can seem impossible for some. Ensuring that you are healthy mentally and physically during this stressful time will only help matters. Having an experienced Illinois divorce attorney working on our behalf can make a favorable outcome more achievable. Set yourself up to succeed by contacting a lawyer today.
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Children's Questions About Divorce
Going through a divorce is a tough situation on its own, and adding children into the mix can make things even more overwhelming. In order to make the situation a little less stressful, it is important to know how to answer the important questions your children will ask about your divorce. In general, children will ask the same types of difficult questions about divorce. However, experts say that you don’t necessarily need to have every single answer ready. The best way to handle them when they come is to prepare mentally and be ready to listen and respond in a sensitive way.
Diane Shearer is an experienced family therapist. She goes by the philosophy that we should look beyond the questions children ask about divorce and focus on what they’re really looking for. "When kids ask tough questions, they aren’t looking for complicated answers. They are looking for affirmation, not information."
- Why? Kids don’t want to know the nitty-gritty details on the reasons behind your divorce, but they’re looking for the big-picture reason. According to Shearer, kids worry that since their parents can stop loving each other, they might stop loving the kids, too. It’s important that you assure that a parent’s love for their child is vastly different from love between parents. Let your children know that your love for them will never change.
Social Service Agencies offer Expanded Services for Domestic Violence Victims
According to CBS Chicago, in the upcoming year, there is going to be a new shelter in the Chicago Lawn area for domestic violence victims. Agency officials stated that there has been a large amount of calls for help in that area and that presently there is just nowhere for the victims to seek shelter.
The occurrences of domestic violence statistics are staggering and it happens more often than people realize. In fact, some divorce mediation programs report that up to 80 percent of divorces cite some kind of domestic violence as a reason for the divorce filing. In Chicago, there is a specific procedure used for handling divorce mediation where domestic violence is reported. Each party named in the divorce wait in separated waiting areas while filling out a 14-question written interview regarding safety concerns. The parties are then interviewed privately to screen for domestic violence. Each party is also escorted separately from the building by security guards.
Domestic violence incidences are taken seriously because of the possible grievous consequences. Many states do have different procedures in dealing with domestic violence divorces such as waiving the cohabitation clause. Some states do require that a divorcing couple live apart for a predetermined amount of time before the court will grant the divorce. Domestic violence is also a serious consideration when it comes to issues of child custody and visitation. A parent that has a history of domestic violence may be limited to supervised visitation sessions for the protection of the children.
If you are a victim of domestic violence and you are seeking a divorce, you need to hire an empathetic and informed Illinois family law attorney to ensure the safety and protect the interests of you and your children.
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How to Get Insurance Coverage after Divorce
One perk of being married to a spouse with a good job is that you may be able to get employer-sponsored insurance. However, a divorce can make it difficult for the other spouse to remain insured, even for the children they have together.Insurance companies look at "qualifying events" to continue coverage for individuals who are no longer officially covered by insurance. There both state and federal laws allow ex-spouses and children to continue being on an employer-sponsored health insurance after a divorce.
There are four considerations that must be followed to remain on a plan, or get insurance coverage, according to the Illinois Spousal Continuation Law.
- An employer or plan administration has to let you know of your right to continue insurance benefits after a divorce. Some of the time this happens AFTER the former spouse contacts the employer or plan administration. The spouse must let them know within 30 days after the divorce is final. If the former spouse does not notify the proper parties, it can lead to loss of insurance.
Child Custody in Illinois
Although child custody cases come about because of issues that arise with the parents, the most important thing in the case is still the child. Every step taken by the courts is taken according to what the courts believe is in the best interests of the child. Even after a custody arrangement has been decided by the court, though, changes may still occur.It is possible that a child may decide that he or she wants to live with the other parent. However, this is not enough of a reason for the custody to be rearranged. In order the change the custody, the court must be shown that doing so is better for the welfare of the child. Often times, showing that the child is not doing well with his or her current custodial parent is enough to switch the custody.
Another situation that may bring about a custodial change is if the custodial parents dies or is sent to prison. If a death occurs, usually the other parent will automatically get custody. If the custodial parent is incarcerated he or she cannot interfere with the other parent getting custody of the child, but he or she can make emergency temporary arrangements for the care of the child. In either case, of both death and incarceration, the other parent will most likely get custody.
Another factor that may change the custody of a child is if a custodial parent behaves inappropriately in a way that affects the well-being of the child. If anything that the parent does affects his or her relationship with the child, that is also a reason for a change in the custody agreement.
If you have reason to believe that your child could benefit from a different custody arrangement, contact a Lombard family law attorney for assistance. Angel Traub and Associates in Lombard, Ill. can help you fight for the custody of your child today.
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Recovered Addict Adopts her own Children
Adoption is a wonderful way to provide a home for children in the Illinois system who are looking to be placed in a loving home. When most people think of adoption, it usually involves a couple who is looking to expand their family. But there are other types of adoptions, such as the adoption of a relative's child. This can happen for various reasons, but the court will grant adoption to a relative to protect the child or children's best interest in the event the parent is deemed unfit.
There are cases where the biological parent may what to regain parental rights after getting his or her life together. This was the case a few years ago when a woman sought to adopt her biological children after winning her battle with a drug addiction.
The Chicago mom fought to reclaim her children after years of battling a drug addiction. Thanks to an Illinois law that went into effect in 2010, rehabilitated parents can regain custody of children who were adopted by relatives. The mother of eleven fought to adopt 10 of her own children who were awarded to the grandmother when the courts found the mom to be unfit as a mother due to her drug addiction at the time. The grandmother died in 2005.
When the relatives of the adopted children die many of these children become orphaned and it can be a struggle for the rehabilitated parent to regain parental rights. After 10 years of rehabilitation, this Chicago mom was reunited with her family, who as adults, wanted to be adopted by their mother. At the time of the article, rights to four of her children had been restored.
If you or a loved one is fighting to regain custody of children who were adopted by relatives, contact an experienced Illinois family law attorney to assist you with your case.
Facebook and Divorce Linked in Recent Research Study
A doctoral student at the University of Missouri has found that Facebook and other social media tools can have detrimental effects on relationships and marriages. Russell Clayton’s research has revealed that excessive Facebook users are connected with higher levels of Facebook-related conflict. This conflict can cause long-term problems in the relationship, like higher chances of cheating and divorce.
In the study, Facebook users between the ages of 18 and 82 were surveyed about their current level of social media use. Individuals were also asked to share details about conflict with their significant others as a result of their Facebook use. High levels of Facebook use in couples was linked to higher levels of conflict for the couple, often surrounding perceived issues of jealousy over communication and interactions with other Facebook friends. Using social media also makes details about the relationship or marriage much more public, since pictures and other shares can give Facebook friends a window into the couple&s life.
Claiming Social Security Benefits After Divorce
According to Reuters and published in the Chicago Tribune, "if you’re divorced, it’s possible to claim Social Security spousal and survivor benefits from your ex." This strategy, according to Reuters, can up the ante when it comes to your benefits, and have you set for the years of retirement to come. With many divorcees nearing the retirement age (a different Tribune article reports that the divorce rate for people over the age of 50 has doubled between 1990 and 2010, meaning that there are a whole new slew of divorcees about to hit retirement this decade), knowing just what your rights are when it comes to Social Security is increasingly important.
All About Emancipation
Big screen star Will Smith and his 14-year-old son Jayden recently made news when the soon to be 15 year old told his dad that all he wanted for his 15th birthday was to be emancipated. He stated that he wanted to be emancipated from his family simply because he wants to live in his own home. Many of us think that emancipation of a minor only takes place in the event of parental negligence or because of other hostilities.What is Emancipation?
Emancipation is a legal process that releases the child from the custody and control of his parents or legal guardian. In the state of Illinois, a child is automatically emancipated at the age of 18, but under special circumstances, an order can be made for a minor child between the ages of 16 and 18 to be emancipated.
Who should seek Emancipation?
There are many different reasons that a minor may want to seek emancipation. One reason that a child may seek emancipation is because he has graduated from high school at an early age and wishes to move out of the home to attend college. While technically, most students are supported by their parents, there are restrictions to what a minor can do even if he is living on his own. For example, there may be certain jobs that they are unable to work, they may have an issue securing adequate housing, or they may even have challenges related to school.
A minor that is seeking emancipation has to be able to prove that they are mature and able to take care of themselves. They can have witnesses speak on their part, such as teachers, counselors, employers, or other adults. They need to display a good work and/or educational history and prove that they do not need the financial support of their parents.
Emancipation can be a complicated process. If you have questions regarding your child and emancipation, a qualified Illinois family law attorney can assist you with the answers.
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Church’s Impact on Children of Divorce
Recently, studies have shown that children of divorce are twice as likely grow up non-religious than kids who grow up in homes with happy, stable marriages. However, clergy members continue to overlook this. According to the Chicago Tribune, the researchers of this study would like to present their findings to Chicago’s Fourth Presbyterian Church. They hope that the pastors will stop overlooking the faith of children of divorce. Researchers believe that children of divorce who leave the church are a main contributor to the decline of people in mainline Christian religious affiliations.
One of the head researchers of the project, Elizabeth Marquardt, talked to the Chicago Tribune; she said, she feels the mainline churches have not done enough to help children of divorce. They have trusted that if everyone gets along and keeps their conflict to a minimum that it will all turn out okay. Marquardt feels that the results of her study could have an impact on the mainline churches, which rely on the next generation to bring them forward. Throughout Marquardt’s study, she found that children of divorce felt misunderstood at church during their parent’s separation. A child who feels alienated by the church would be unlikey to come back to it as an adult.
There are some pastors who try to reach out to children when their parents are going through a split. Reverend Joyce Shin says, "There is no protocol when a couple in the congregation is separating." But Rev. Shin does try to reach out to the adults and tries to help out with the children’s needs. Shin goes on to say, "We know there are trusts that are being broken and that were broken, and it’s going to take a lot to build up from that."
Whether you are religious or not, if you and your spouse are looking to file for divorce contact an Illinois Divorce Attorney, who will be able to answer any of your questions. Contact an Illinois Family Law Attorney today.
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