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grandparent, rights, visitation, Lombard family lawyerIf you are like most grandparents, spending time with your grandchildren is among the greatest joys in life. You, no doubt, look forward to having them come over or interacting with them at family gatherings, just as they eagerly anticipate getting to see you. In some family situations, however, things are often much more difficult, as a failing relationship between the parents may create challenges for fostering such a special bond. Grandparents in cases such as these may have no other option than to petition the court for visitation privileges.

Rights vs. Privileges

Under Illinois law, a parent who is not granted custody of his or her child maintains the right to reasonable visitation. These rights can only be restricted by an action of the court, and may only be done for cause. Visitation for all other family members is considered a privilege, and is not assumed by law in any way.

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child support, non-payment, Lombard family law attorneysWhen you are granted primary physical custody of your child, you assume responsibility for a number of concerns related to his or her well-being. Your address is used as the child’s primary address for legal purposes and school registration, in addition to you taking on the role of primary parent for many day-to-day activities. If you and the other parent have been granted joint legal custody, the other parent may assist you in making decisions and spend significant time with the child, but will often be ordered to contribute financially to the support of the child by means of a child support order.

Illinois Child Support

In the state of Illinois, the court may require that either or both parents pay child support, but, in practice, the parent who is not granted primary physical custody is generally required to provide support. Under state law, the amount to be paid is based on a percentage of the paying parent’s net income, sometimes adjusted for circumstantial factors of the family situation.

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prenup, premarital agreement, Illinois family lawyerThere is nothing on earth quite like the feeling of falling in love. For as long as most people can remember, they have dreamed of the day they would meet "the one" and enjoy a long, happy life together. Social traditions, of course, change over time, and the landscape of a modern marriage has been greatly impacted as a result. Previous generations saw marriage primarily as a starting point from which a young couple was expected to start building a life together. Virtually every life achievement, job promotion, or major purchase was experienced as a couple, and the idea of a prenuptial agreement seemed to have little value in most situations.

Over the last several decades, however, trends show that more Americans are waiting longer than ever to get married, meaning that, as individuals, there is more time to accumulate assets, create business opportunities, and generally establish independent identities. When the time comes for marriage, both partners are bringing more of their lives with them than ever before. For many, establishing a formal arrangement prior to getting married may provide both partners with the security they need to fully commit themselves to the success of the marriage. In this sense, a prenuptial agreement can be more than just an insurance policy against divorce; it can actively contribute to a happy and healthy marriage.

Common Considerations

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divorced illinois fathersThe bond between a mother and her child is undeniable. According to a recent article by Parenting magazine contributing editor and co-author of Magical Beginnings, Enchanted Lives: A Holistic Guide to Pregnancy and Childbirth Deepak Chopra, M.D., a close personal attachment with your child may prevent diseases, boost immunity and enhance the IQ quotient of your child’s developing mind. Dr. Chopra further believes that maternal bonding has evolved into such a complex physiological phenomenon that touches our hearts, brains, hormones, nervous systems or about every component of our physical being. The study included in Chopra’s book, made possible by a grant from Mead Johnson Nutrition, suggests that a strong maternal bond may prove even more powerful than DNA.

But where does all this research leave Illinois fathers trying to establish a paternal bond with their children post-divorce? Recently, the Illinois Fathers Network, founded in 2008 and recently established as a non-profit organization, is trying to answer this question for Illinois fathers and other non-custodial family members by proposing three revisions to current Illinois statutes.

HB5425 Synopsis

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Arlington heights family law attorney, finding a lawyer, divorce, Illinois, Lombard family lawyerOne of the most important steps in going through a divorce is choosing your attorney. Having the right attorney can help determine how smooth, or how wrought with delays and frustrations your divorce will be.

When choosing an attorney, you should consider several candidates. Get referrals from several sources. If you have friends who have recently gone through divorces, ask them. Depending on how their divorces went, some may even recommend their ex-spouse's attorney instead of their own. It is also a good idea to get referrals from other attorneys. If you have an attorney you consult with for business or an estate planning attorney, contact them and ask them for a referral. You can also visit the websites of your local and state bar associations to get names of family law attorneys.

After gathering referrals, take the time to research each one in order to help whittle down the list of you will make interview. The Internet is a good place to do this research. Check out the attorney’s website, as well as their LinkedIn page and other social media sites, such as Facebook and Twitter.  Some of the things to consider while conducting your research are:

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latchkey kid, single parent, parenting, Illinois family law attorney, divorce attorenyLatchkey kids. For many, these children live in single family homes either due to divorce or explanatory absence of one parent. The concept of latchkey kids dates back to World War II, when fathers left to serve and mothers entered war effort industries. Often awarded a key, dangling from a piece of string placed around their necks, latchkey kids arrived at an empty home and waited for mom to finish her shift. World War II moms often opted for the swing shift, requiring them to lock the door and slip off to work while their children slept. The country realized this was an issue, and promptly set up community centers where Latchkey Kids could safely await mom’s arrival.

These types of programs ended shortly after the war, leaving Americans still wondering how to work, support families and ensure the safety of their children. Sixty-nine years later, latchkey kids remain a societal issue of today’s generation.

Home Alone Act II

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maiden name, name change, marriage, divorce, Illinois family lawyer, Illinois divorce attorneyAccording to a study that spanned 35 years and was published in Social Behavior and Personality, just under 25 percent of women who married in the 1990’s kept their maiden name. In the 2000’s, this number leveled off at around 18 percent. More women in the Northeast (20 percent) keep their maiden names than women in the Midwest (4 percent).

When going through a divorce, women are given the option of keeping their married last name or going back to their maiden name. For women who are undecided at the time of the divorce, it’s important to make sure that it is clearly spelled out in the final divorce decree that they may do so in the future. Otherwise, it will be necessary to go back to court in order to have the divorce decree amended.

There are several things to consider when deciding which last name to use after a divorce. If there are children from the marriage, some women make the decision to keep their married name in order to still share the same last name with their kids.

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children of divorce, life after divorce, Illinois family lawyer, Illinois family law attorneyAccording to a study conducted at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, children whose parents are divorced may suffer from low math test scores. The study also revealed that divorce may hamper the development of interpersonal skills in children, as well as cause children to struggle with low self-esteem, sadness, loneliness and anxiety.

The results of the study indicate that children do not suffer with these issues before their parents’ divorce, despite what the home situation is. These problems tend to appear after the breakup has already occurred.

Author of the study, Hyun Sik Kim, studied data provided by the Early Childhood Longitudinal Study. The study tracked 3600 students from kindergarten through fifth grade, beginning in 2008.

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orphan adoption, The Orphan Foundation, Lombard family lawyer, Lombard adoption attorneyAccording to a recent article by Joe DiDonato, Co-founder and Chairman of The Orphan Foundation, adoption is experiencing new found advancements driven by a completely new set of personal motivators. No longer does the word "adoption" equate to couples experiencing infertility or solidifying the blended step family. What the Foundation found by implementing a grant program shows a totally different aspect of the adoption process.

With the acceptance of grant proposals by the Foundation, what the Board has found is that adoption is now geared toward helping children worldwide, often those with special needs releasing the stereotypical notion of why families turn to adoption.

Listed below are two examples of the first three proposals submitted to the Foundation for grant consideration.

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spousal support, alimony, spousal maintenance, Illinois divorce lawyer, Illinois divorce attorneyUnder the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act, an ex-spouse may be entitled to spousal support. Under section 504 of the law, it states, ". . . the court may grant a temporary or permanent maintenance award for either spouse in amounts and for periods of time as the court deems just, without regard to marital misconduct, in gross or for fixed or indefinite periods of time. . ."

There are several factors a judge looks at in deciding whether or not to grant spousal support. Some of the criteria include the following:
  • The length of the marriage;
  • The present and future earning capacity of the spouses;
  • The standard of living the parties had while married;
  • The length of time it will take for the spouse seeking spousal support to obtain training and establish themselves professionally; and
  • Any prior agreement the couple may have had.
In rare circumstances, a permanent spousal support (spousal maintenance) order is granted. When granting a maintenance order, a judge will usually set a time limit on how long the payments will be received. Depending on how long the order will be in effect, the law also allows for periodic review and/or modification if needed. Certain circumstances will put an end to spousal support payments if they occur before the deadline decided by the judge. The death of either spouse automatically stops all maintenance. Remarriage of the spouse receiving the payments also puts an end to the support. As outlined in the statute, "the party receiving maintenance cohabits with another person on a resident, continuing conjugal basis," is not as black and white as death and remarriage. In many cases, the spouse receiving the spousal support doesn’t volunteer that they are living with someone, nor do they admit they are when pressed by the spouse who is paying the support. Instead, the spouse making the payments has to provide proof to present to the court. There are certain key signs that point to cohabitation. Financial interdependencies between the ex-spouse and their significant other can help build a strong case to stop support payments. Do they share a home, food, utility bills and household responsibilities? Also look at how close they are as a couple and how they present themselves to the public, including involvement with each other’s children. If you were ordered to make spousal support payments in your divorce, but suspect that your ex-spouse is cohabitating with someone else, contact an experienced Lombard family law attorney to find out what steps you may be able to take to have the support order stopped.

in-laws, lawyer, attorney, Illinois family law attorney, Illinois family lawyerWith summer drawing closer, many families are considering taking vacations to see their in-laws. While this would ideally be a happy, carefree time for families, unfortunately these visits are often the source of conflict as parents feel pulled in different directions. In fact, toxic relationships with the in-laws may lead to divorce in some cases.

According to The Washington Times, spouses across the country have tough relationships with their in-laws. In some cases, in-laws may use guilt and manipulation in order to coerce their children into following their wishes when it comes to visitation time with grandchildren. This can leave couples scrambling as they try to divide time equally between sets of grandparents. Unfortunately, all of this pushing and pulling can cause marital troubles if not handled correctly. It is important to discuss vacations and visitation schedules with your spouse in order to determine what will suit you best as both a family and a couple. In cases where your spouse may want to make one decision, while your parents or in-laws are pushing for a different choice, it is important to put the needs and wishes of your spouse first if you want your marriage to stay healthy. It may be helpful to come up with compromises ahead of time. You might consider rotating holidays between sets of grandparents, for example, or consider hosting your in-laws for a visit instead of traveling. Setting boundaries for visits may also help things go more smoothly. Unfortunately, sometimes the conflict caused by toxic in-laws can become too much for a couple to overcome. If you are considering filing for divorce in Illinois, it is important that you have an attorney to help you through the process. Contact the experienced professionals at A. Traub & Associates today for a consultation on your case. They look forward to helping you ensure your divorce moves as smoothly as possible.

social media, twitter, facebook, family law, divorce, Illinois divorce lawyer, Illinois divorce attorneyTwitter and other social media services have completely changed the way people interact in their relationships. However, this does not always mean good things when it comes to romantic partnerships. Unfortunately, use of these services may also be behind a number of couples filing for divorce.

A recent study from Russell Clayton, a doctoral candidate at the University of Missouri has found that people who use Twitter actively are more likely to experience conflict with their romantic partners. The study also determined that Twitter-related conflict was more likely to lead to negative outcomes in the relationship, including infidelity and divorce. Over the course of the study, Clayton surveyed a total of 581 Twitter users about their activity on the social media site, including how often they accessed the site, posted tweets, sent direct messages, replied to followers, and scrolled through their newsfeed. He also questioned study participants about how often conflict arose in their relationship due to their Twitter usage. He found that the more active a respondent was on the social media website, the more likely they were to experience Twitter-related conflict with their partner. Unlike the results of Clayton's previous study, which examined the effect of Facebook-related conflict on relationships and found only newer relationships were affected, this study found that increased conflict and negative relationship outcomes affected new relationships regardless of how long the couple had been involved with each other. The study has been published in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking. Social media is an excellent tool for communication and building friendships. Unfortunately, it can also have a negative effect as well. If you are considering filing for divorce as the result of online infidelity, it is important that you have an experienced attorney on your side. Contact a qualified Illinois divorce attorney today for a consultation on your case.

child abuse, child neglect, DCFS, DCFS investigation, Illinois family lawyer, Illinois family law attorney, child safetyThe prospect of having to undergo a DCFS child abuse or neglect investigation is a horrifying thought to every loving parent out there. Unfortunately, false accusations do occur. If you find yourself facing the prospect of an abuse or neglect investigation, here is what you need to know.

According to the DCFS fact sheet, an investigation is launched 24 hours from the time a report is received. If the allegation is one of neglect or inadequate shelter, an investigative specialist will be dispatched to view the child’s living space. Initially, the specialist’s concern will be for the immediate safety of the child. The child in question and other children in the household will be interviewed along with other household members, extended family members, and other professionals, depending on the allegation. It’s always best to be completely honest and provide complete information to the specialist. In cases where the allegation is of serious physical or sexual abuse, the state law requires the investigative specialist to notify both the local police and the State’s Attorney. In these cases, the police may choose to conduct a joint investigation, or the police may conduct their own investigation. The police may also be contacted if the investigative specialist feels that family members or other concerned individuals are refusing to cooperate with their investigation. The state has a maximum of 60 days to complete their investigation, though most are completed in 30 days. In certain cases, a 60 day extension may be requested, particularly when the state is waiting on medical or police reports. You will be notified in writing of DCFS’ final findings, and the investigative specialist may also contact you. If the allegations are unfounded, the DCFS State Central Register will maintain the information pertaining to the investigation for one to three years. Facing an abuse or neglect allegation can be a frightening experience. Having a qualified family attorney at your side can help. Contact the experienced Lombard, Illinois family attorneys at A. Traub & Associates today for a consultation on your case. We have years of experience defending clients against unfounded abuse and neglect investigations can help you prove your innocence.

adoptionAccording to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, adoption is the process whereby a person assumes parenting for another and, in doing so, permanently transfers all rights and responsibilities, along with filiation, from the biological parent or parents.

In many cases all goes well with the process and integration of the adopted child into a thriving and loving family. So much so that the Adoption USA: National Survey of Adoptive Parents, supports that 81 percent of parents have established a "very warm and close" relationship with their adopted son or daughter. But what happens when  adoption turns out not to be the idyllic family portrait you were hoping for? The most infamous case was that of the young Russian boy who was returned to homeland by his adoptive mother. Another case highlights a former attorney from Spokane, Washington who after much concerted effort decided to place her adopted child, originally from Haiti, up for adoption to preserve the safety of her two younger children. ABC News', senior health and medical editor, Dr. Richard Besser agrees that these cases are heartbreaking, but atypical. Besser reports that 80 to 90 percent of all adoptions are successful and offers the following advice for parents considering adoption: Adjustment Period – take time to let your child relax and become familiar with the family routine. It takes a period of time to determine if any disruptions are due to adjustment issues or if the situation is hindered by a medical or psychological disorder. Realistic Expectations – for parents considering adoption, do not place high expectations on your child from the very beginning. For those children being adoptive from foreign countries, the majority of these children were institutionalized and may need a longer adjustment period. Do Your Homework – before finalizing the adoption, take the time and effort to research and learn as much about your child as possible. Come to know all of the circumstances of their "former" life and then adjust your expectations based on your findings. Rely on a Strong Support Network – enlist family and friends. Join an organized support group and seek out community based services available to families of adoptive children. Besser also recommends using a pediatrician experienced with adopted children. Raising a child, either biological or adopted is a lifelong challenge. No one can predict the outcome or the trials and tribulations along the way. It takes love, compassion, patience and guidance. For the majority of adopted children they will thrive in their environment but for those who have deeper issues that hinder growth development and evoke social and cognitive disorders we can only hope that one day they will find their way. As for the parents who tried we can only applaud their endless effort. If you are considering adoption and reside in the Lombard or Arlington Heights communities, the adoption attorneys of A. Traub & Associates understand your legal and emotional concerns. We are experienced in both domestic and international adoption and can guide you through the process with finalization within a few months. Adoption takes a strong commitment and we understand you also need a strong committed legal team with you every step of the way. For more information on how A. Traub & Associates can help you, contact us at 630-426-0196 for an affordable consultation today.

Posted on in Children

latchkey kidAs the school year progresses, many parents begin to consider the possibility of allowing their child to come home and care for themselves after school. However, many parents worry about the possibility of a DCFS investigation if they choose to allow their child to do this. Luckily, in most cases, there is no reason to worry.

According to the Illinois DCFS, Illinois courts must consider a total of 15 factors when deciding whether a latchkey kid has been the victim of neglect. Those factors are:
  • The child’s age;
  • How many children have been left alone;
  • Whether or not the child had any special needs, including medications;
  • How long the child stayed by themselves;
  • Whether or not the residence where the child was left was a safe and clean environment;
  • What time the minor was left (day, night, etc).
  • Whether the weather conditions presented a hazard to the child at the time, and whether the residence where the child was left provided adequate shelter from those conditions;
  • How far away the parent or guardian was at the time the child was alone;
  • Whether the child’s movements were restricted in any way (being locked into a room, etc.)
  • Whether the child was capable of calling emergency services, and whether or not the child had the means and information to call those services if needed;
  • Whether the child had access to food and water;
  • Any economic circumstances that may have been the cause of the parent leaving the child, and whether the parent made an effort to ensure the child’s safety;
  • Whether or not the parent had left the child in the care of another person;
  • Any other factors that might have presented a danger to the child at the time they were left alone.
In most cases, leaving a child who is mature and capable for an hour or two after school is perfectly legal. Unfortunately, not everyone understands these guidelines and false accusations can be filed. If you find yourself the subject of an Illinois DCFS investigation, it is important to have an attorney to advise you. Contact a qualified Illinois family attorney today for a consultation on your case.

remarriage, Lombard, Illinois, divorce lawyer, divorce attorney, Downers Grove Family Lawyers, second marriage, multiple marriagesThis command performance may not guarantee you a gold star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, but if considering marrying your former spouse, you would be sharing center stage with the likes of Liz Taylor; Marie Osmond; NeNe Leakes, Pink and even Judge Judy, just to name a few.

Will it be a marriage of infinite syndication? Probably not. Psychology Today reports that over 60 percent of all repeat marriages are prone to cancellation. Evidence shows that repeat marriages fail quicker than the premiere episode. Lois Tarter, author of  The Divorce Ritual and contributor to the Huffington Post, believes there are a few steps to be taken when contemplating Act II with your former spouse.
  • Time – take it. Make sure all emotional wounds have healed. Confront and resolve any outstanding issues before the anticipated wedding date;
  • Honesty is truly the best policy. Both of you will need to reestablish trust. Be open to accepting your responsibility for the failed first marriage;
  • Children – take them into consideration. Hold off just a bit before informing the kids of your reconciliation their emotions may still be in turmoil;
  • Counseling is likely a good idea. Consider individual, couples counseling or marriage classes. Keep all things topical on a regular basis. Avoid misconceptions and old habits.
If you are considering a second marriage with your former spouse, congratulations, break a leg. If you want to truly associate yourself with the likes of Liz, Marie, NeNe, Pink and Judge Judy, perhaps before taking your farewell performance, it may be in your best interest to contact an experienced Downers Grove family law attorney to discuss your options for drafting a prenuptial agreement to safeguard your financial assets, just in case your shining star fizzles out. The legal team at  A. Traub & Associates understands the cosmic complexities of marriage and divorce. If you find yourself in the throes of either we can help. For those facing the dissolution of a marriage we will take the time to listen and address all of your concerns. For those planning a walk down the aisle, even if it is the second time around, we can discuss all benefits of drafting a prenuptial agreement to safeguard your financial assets and provide you with peace of mind. We offer consultations to those residing in DuPage, Will, Cook and Kane Counties. Contact us at 630-426-0196 today to learn more about your options.

disabled spouse, divorce, Illinois, lawyer, attorney, support, maintenance.Deciding to file for a divorce takes insurmountable courage, especially if you are living with a disability. According to a recent U.S. Census Brief, one fifth of all Americans are facing daily challenges due to a disability. The numbers are only expected to increase over the coming decades.

One case scenario could highlight a woman with a diagnosed disability who has been married for 25 years with no children involved. Her spouse's substance abuse issues have become intolerable and after considerable counseling there is no hope left for saving the marriage. There is nothing left to do but to contact an experienced divorce attorney and move forward. For many disabled Americans facing divorce, additional circumstances may need to be taken into consideration. For those residing in Illinois, the Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act (750 ILCS 5) will provide for the following three areas of possible continual support: Temporary

Maintenance payment agreed upon by both parties to cover short-term expenses.

Rehabilitative

Maintenance payment to one spouse until financial independence is achieved.

Permanent  Maintenance payment of life-time payments agreed-upon by both parties. In Illinois there are several factors that will ultimately determine the type of maintenance awarded. The appointed judge will review the economic profile of each individual, joint property owned, overall age and the health of each person as well as the length of the marriage. As illustrated in the case scenario the couple had been married for 25 years. The wife has never worked outside the home and her ability to enter the job market is limited by her disability. The judge takes into consideration that even though there are laws against discrimination the woman's chances of obtaining sustainable employment are considerably less than of her male counterparts. All factors will be taken under advisement by the judge who may award a higher maintenance allowance based on all contributing factors. Based upon the nature of the disability, there may be additional considerations which should be discussed with an experienced Illinois attorney with regard to the final divorce settlement. Hypothetically, the female in our story will now be living alone and her safety and managing daily duties may warrant further discussion. Our hypothetical female will now be living alone and safety may be of concern. Additional living expenses may include the use of an electric scooter, access to a wheelchair ramp or even the need for a walk-in style type of tub surround. With the disabled spouse now living on her own without the assistance of her spouse, housekeeping issues may also be a factor in the final divorce settlement. All considerations should be given to ensure the challenges of daily life are met in order to facilitate independence. If you are one of the many Americans living with a disability and facing the challenges of a divorce, the experienced  and dependable law team of A. Traub & Associates will rise to the challenge to address your many concerns. We will work diligently to ensure all of your needs are met to reach a satisfactory settlement quickly and professionally. We will not back down from any challenge. Contact us at 630-426-0196 to schedule your consultation today.

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military divorce, divorce lawyer, reason for divorce, Illinois attorneyMilitary life can be difficult, particularly during wartime. As couples are forced to spend time apart and deal with the stresses that deployments present in addition to normal marriage challenges, it can sometimes strain a marriage to the point of divorce.

According to a recent RAND Corporation study, the divorce rate among military families increases directly in relation to the length of the deployment. Researchers found that more cumulative months of deployment increased the risk of divorce among couples, particularly for female service members. Though it is believed this may be because cumulative deployment is harder to adjust to in couples where the service member is female, this was not specifically addressed by the study. While any deployment increased the risk of divorce in military families, deployments to war zones in Iraq and Afghanistan resulted in a higher rate of divorce than those deployed elsewhere. The divorce rate was also higher for couples married before the terror attacks on September 11, 2001. Those couples were 28 percent more likely to divorce than military couples who married after the attacks. Researchers believe this may have been because couples married after 9/11 were more prepared for the challenges posed by military life than those who were married earlier. Interestingly, the risk for divorce is lower among military families that had children. Military life is not easy under any circumstances, but deployments into a war zone can be incredibly stressful. Unfortunately, sometimes a marriage cannot be saved no matter how hard both parties try. If you are considering filing for divorce, having a qualified attorney on your side can help. Contact the experienced family law attorneys at A. Traub & Associates, Attorneys at Law today. They can help ensure that the divorce process goes as smoothly as possible for you and your family.

Illinois Guardianship and Advocacy Commission, Illinois Law, Guardianship, Illinois Family Law, Illinois Family Lawyer, Illinois Family Law Attorney, Arlington Heights Family Law Attorney, Legal Guardian, Health Care Surrogate Act, Disabled Adult, Power of AttorneyTaking care of a disabled adult, or helping them care for themselves, can be one of the most stressful and difficult ordeals a person and family can go through. In many cases, families consider assuming legal guardianship to make things easier. However, this is often the most restrictive alternative available to the disabled person. There are many alternatives to assuming guardianship in Illinois available under the law.

According to the Illinois Guardianship and Advocacy Commission, it is important to explore the alternatives to guardianship before making a decision. After all, guardianship often means having the family’s private affairs examined publicly in court, and inviting court supervision for the future. Whenever possible, the situation should first be discussed with a team of professionals, including medical staff, social workers, caretakers, and an experienced attorney as well as family and friends.

Under Illinois law, an alternate means of medical decision-making for the disabled individual may be established under the Health Care Surrogate Act for a person who has become incapacitated.

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traditional marriageWith Valentine's Day quickly approaching, perhaps the best present you can give your spouse is permission to break the top ten traditional marriage laws handed down from generation to generation - many of which our grandmothers whispered to us right before heading down the aisle!

 Recently Woman's Day and Barbara Bartlein, RN, MSW granted all married couples permission to forgo these top 10 age-old axioms for long-term marital bliss without fear of immediately marching off to divorce court.
  •  Never Go to Bed Angry – possibly derived from the bible and grandma's favorite. Nonsense- you are both tired, get some sleep and discuss it later.
  •  Honesty is the Best Policy – not true. Consider your partner's feelings and realize that he or she does not need to know every detail of your previous life.
  •  All the Days of Our Lives – being happily married does not mean you are attached at the hip. You love the beach, he loves snowboarding. Separate trips are fine, just don't make it a habit.
  •  One Heated Argument, Call the Attorney– not so fast! Research shows that couples who do not disagree are more likely to find themselves in divorce court.
  •  The Kids Come First – a tough one to break. Parents who schedule date night are actually better parents and enjoy a stronger marriage.
  •  Never Sleep in Separate beds – for those who are happily married to a spouse who snores, enough said.
  •  Keep your Individuality – this is what first peeked your spouse's interest. Keep up on your hobbies, but do not let them consume all of your free time.
  •  The Thrill is Gone – no it's not. The relationship has just evolved through the normal relationship cycle but it is in your best interest to set off some fireworks every once in a while.
  •  Achieving Boredom – not all doom and gloom. This means you achieved the comfortable stage of your relationship by finding comfort in your daily lives together.
  •  It's Friday Night – Time for Fireworks! - Could not be farther from the truth. Do not schedule your sex life for any reason. You will both know when the time is right.
For couples bound by generational marital law, we are more than happy to join Woman's Day and Ms. Bartlein and remove these axioms from the marital stone tablets. Unfortunately for others perhaps spending yet another Valentine's Day alone and realizing deep down in their hearts that their marriage is in deep trouble beyond repair, it may be time to contact an experienced divorce attorney to discuss their options. At A. Traub & Associates, we make it our goal to help our clients move past the experience quickly, effectively, and permanently. Contact us at (630) 426-0196 to schedule your initial consultation today. We can help you.
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