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DuPage County Divorce AttorneyAccording to the American Psychological Association, more than 90 percent of individuals from Western cultures marry by the age of 50. Sadly, in the United States, 40 to 50 percent of these marriages end in divorce. However, while the nationwide average is high, not every state has such a high divorce rate. Statistics from the U.S. Census Bureau found that Illinois has some of the lowest divorce numbers in the country, with there being 9.41 divorced individuals for every 1,000 married couples in the state. Other states, such as Hawaii, New York, Vermont, and New Jersey, have similarly low divorce rates.  What common factors do these states have that causes the divorce rate to be so low?

Why the Reduced Numbers?

It can be difficult to determine what the variables in a good marriage are. Studies of these states have found that there are commonalities they all share:

  • Reduced Student Debt: A common cause of divorce is financial stress. A couple’s financial state can sometimes make or break their marriage, depending on their situation. This is especially common for couples in which one person works while the other stays at home. Large amounts of student debt can be an immediate burden added to a marriage, particularly if the working individual is using their paycheck to pay off their spouse’s debt. Many of the “top five” low divorce states had lower average amounts of student debt owed.
  • An Age Range Change: Getting married young is not as common as it once was. Unlike their parents and their grandparents, millennials are choosing to get married at an older age. This has been attributed to higher education levels and increased opportunities, especially for women. Marriages that are officiated when the individuals are older have been proven to last longer. Many of the individuals in these five states wait until closer to age 30 to tie the knot.
  • Higher Income: Similar to the first reason, less financial burden equals less conflict about monetary constraints. The Census Bureau reports reflect a correlation between high divorce rates and large numbers of people who live below the poverty line. The opportunities that are available to people with higher incomes can reduce stress for couples, thus making them happier in their marriage.
  • Fewer People are Tying the Knot: Do not let the statistics fool you; fewer overall marriages means fewer divorces. In Illinois, less than 65 percent of people are married. This may also be attributed to higher education levels and greater independence for all genders, reducing the social requirement to get married. 

Contact a DuPage County Divorce Attorney for Assistance

Illinois divorce rates may be some of the lowest in the country, but many marriages within the state do still end in divorce. It is important to seek out an experienced attorney to help you with the legal issues that must be addressed during your divorce thus allowing you to focus on the life changes you are about to experience. If you are considering filing for divorce, contact a Lombard, IL divorce attorney at 630-426-0196.

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coparenting togetherWhen getting divorced from your spouse, you may be relieved, thinking, "Thank goodness I will never have to deal with this person again!" This is especially true if you were involved in a high-conflict marriage. However, if you and your spouse have children together, you will always have to interact with each other on some level. Beyond childhood and adolescence are college graduations, weddings and grandchildren.

Making the decision now to resolve to calmly deal with your spouse will not only make it emotionally easier for you, but more importantly, will go a long way in helping your children adjust to the divorce. Co-parenting together in agreement and without conflict offers children a more stable and happier life.

Following the 10 Commandments of co-parenting could help you and your ex-spouse reach co-parenting peace:

  1. Never put your child in the middle of conflicts between you and your ex-spouse. Remember to put your child’s need first, even if that means a compromise on your part. If you do have an issue with the other parent, try to resolve it quickly instead of letting it fester.
  2. Always treat the other parent with respect. This not only teaches your child by example, but may also open the door of reciprocation by the other parent, leading to better co-parenting.
  3. Accept that there will be different rules at the other parent’s home than you have. As long as your child is not being harmed emotionally or physically, then accept the fact that it really is "none of your business."
  4. Make sure to communicate with the other parent on a consistent basis about school and other activities that your child is involved in.
  5. If there is a problem between you and the other parent, try to resolve it instead of hiding it. You child is probably already aware of the issue, and hiding it, instead of dealing with it, could have a negative impact.
  6. Remember that you and the other parent both want what is best for your child and should be working together. Have periodically discussions about what each other’s needs are from each other to ensure you both are feeling good about your parenting.
  7. Try to share parenting responsibilities as equally as you can, otherwise resentments can build up. Not only is it not fair to the parent who is shouldering the majority of responsibility, but it is not fair to the child either.
  8. It is important to be consistent with your child when it comes to rules and lifestyles. Transitioning from one parent’s home to the other can be difficult for children, but knowing what to expect from each parent makes that transition easier on the child and the parents.
  9. It is very important for children to be able to celebrate parents’ birthdays, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and other significant events. Help your child pick out gifts and/or cards to present to the other parent.
  10. Do not keep your former in-laws away from your child. They are still your child’s grandparents and not allowing visits with them will hurt your child the most.
If you are involved in a child custody dispute, contact an experienced Arlington Heights family law attorney to find out what the best options may be for you and your child.

remarriage, Lombard, Illinois, divorce lawyer, divorce attorney, Downers Grove Family Lawyers, second marriage, multiple marriagesThis command performance may not guarantee you a gold star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, but if considering marrying your former spouse, you would be sharing center stage with the likes of Liz Taylor; Marie Osmond; NeNe Leakes, Pink and even Judge Judy, just to name a few.

Will it be a marriage of infinite syndication? Probably not. Psychology Today reports that over 60 percent of all repeat marriages are prone to cancellation. Evidence shows that repeat marriages fail quicker than the premiere episode. Lois Tarter, author of  The Divorce Ritual and contributor to the Huffington Post, believes there are a few steps to be taken when contemplating Act II with your former spouse.
  • Time – take it. Make sure all emotional wounds have healed. Confront and resolve any outstanding issues before the anticipated wedding date;
  • Honesty is truly the best policy. Both of you will need to reestablish trust. Be open to accepting your responsibility for the failed first marriage;
  • Children – take them into consideration. Hold off just a bit before informing the kids of your reconciliation their emotions may still be in turmoil;
  • Counseling is likely a good idea. Consider individual, couples counseling or marriage classes. Keep all things topical on a regular basis. Avoid misconceptions and old habits.
If you are considering a second marriage with your former spouse, congratulations, break a leg. If you want to truly associate yourself with the likes of Liz, Marie, NeNe, Pink and Judge Judy, perhaps before taking your farewell performance, it may be in your best interest to contact an experienced Downers Grove family law attorney to discuss your options for drafting a prenuptial agreement to safeguard your financial assets, just in case your shining star fizzles out. The legal team at  A. Traub & Associates understands the cosmic complexities of marriage and divorce. If you find yourself in the throes of either we can help. For those facing the dissolution of a marriage we will take the time to listen and address all of your concerns. For those planning a walk down the aisle, even if it is the second time around, we can discuss all benefits of drafting a prenuptial agreement to safeguard your financial assets and provide you with peace of mind. We offer consultations to those residing in DuPage, Will, Cook and Kane Counties. Contact us at 630-426-0196 today to learn more about your options.
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